From first spoon to family table: what many parents aren’t always told about feeding babies and young children.

Starting solids is often painted as a neat, milestone-driven journey. In reality? It’s more of a winding feeding road, full of pauses, surprises and the occasional mess on the ceiling.

smooth isn’t a stage you “outgrow” overnight

There is a misconception that once babies are introduced to solids, they should quickly transition from smooth to varied textures. In truth, the introduction of texture looks different for every child. Some days call for thicker foods, while smoother textures feel easier on other days, especially during crucial changes like teething. Rushing through the different phases of feeding is not the goal. The goal is to acknowledge and respond to your child’s growth patterns.

Read more about introducing your baby to solids.

a feeding routine helps … until it doesn’t

Feeding is all about being responsive and patient. Parents are often told to stick to a routine when feeding. Routines can be helpful, but life does not always allow for them, which is why consistency is key. It is important to pay attention to your child’s cues, whether it be hunger, readiness to eat or simply interest.

mess is not a sign of failure

For babies, learning to eat is not just about swallowing. It is an adventure in which they experience texture, smell and taste at their own pace. It goes without saying that this adventure calls for food on their hands, faces and sometimes even the floors and walls. This is not a call for you to fix or minimise the mess; it’s a call to let your child explore food freely.

Find some ideas for healthy, nutritious finger snacks for babies and toddlers.

variety builds over time, not in one bowl

Patience is key, especially when parents feel pressured to offer a wide range of foods quickly. Variety cannot be achieved in one meal. It can take time to grow – it can be a day, weeks and for some, even months. Seeing a specific food multiple times is part of the process of introducing your child to something new.

Read more about how to get fussy eaters to enjoy a wide range of food.

eating together matters more than “perfect” portions

Including your child at the table plays an important role in how they learn about food. They watch others eat and enjoy, which encourages them to do the same. Rather than racing to the finish line, they are encouraged to take one spoonful or handful at a time as they explore the texture and taste.

There is no single “right” way to feed; do only what works for your child, in your family, at that moment. Trust the process. Trust your child. Give yourself some grace and enjoy the feeding journey, with all its repeats, pauses, progress and the beautiful messes.